The most influential woman in my life is unfortunately someone who isn't physically here anymore, but who I carry around with me in some way daily: my Oma (grandmother).
She came to the US from Germany as a war bride during WWII after working for the US army, where she met my grandfather. She left her family and friends to restart life in a new country that - at the time - wasn't so nice to German folks. My family and I didn't really get a feel for that until after her death in 2014, after which we found letters she and my grandfather had written to her parents back in Germany about the way she was treated. You can tell it was a real struggle that forced her to keep her chin up in the most dire of circumstances. Her war stories were documented, as well, and many of those were completely horrific.
So of course she was brave and resilient. She wasn't without her flaws, of course, but she always taught me that I'm a worthy human being and to rely on my smarts to get by (she always stressed that I was smart and should use that to my advantage). In a world where being smart is sometimes frowned upon, that turned out to be an important lesson. Whenever I doubt myself in any area of my life, I always say, "Well, at least I'm smart and I know I'll figure out how to get through this."
It's one of those things where you don't appreciate someone until they're gone. My family and friends have a habit of walking on eggshells in case they say something rude. My Oma told it like it is and I miss that because I'm one of those people that wants to be slapped in the fact with honesty sometimes. I can only hope to have inherited some of her backbone and I'd be honored to be even 30% the woman she was.
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