Check if you have configured the header properly. Enable debug/trace logs and debug what's happening because it works fine for me
Dispatcher logs with ResourceOnly enabled
[D] [pid 26952 (tid 1152)] checking [/dispatcher/invalidate.cache]
[I] [pid 26952 (tid 1152)] Activation detected: action=Activate [/content/we-retail/us/en/products/men/coats/portland-hooded-jacket]
[D] [pid 26952 (tid 1152)] response.status = 200
[D] [pid 26952 (tid 1152)] response.headers[Server] = "Communique/2.6.3 (build 5221)"
[D] [pid 26952 (tid 1152)] response.headers[Content-Type] = "text/html"
[D] [pid 26952 (tid 1152)] cache flushed
[I] [pid 26952 (tid 1152)] "GET /dispatcher/invalidate.cache" 200 13 1ms [website/-]
and
2019-02-01 20:03:38 - INFO - flush : Creating content for path /content/we-retail/us/en/products/men/coats/portland-hooded-jacket
2019-02-01 20:03:38 - DEBUG - flush : adding header: CQ-Action:Activate
2019-02-01 20:03:38 - DEBUG - flush : adding header: CQ-Handle:/content/we-retail/us/en/products/men/coats/portland-hooded-jacket
2019-02-01 20:03:38 - DEBUG - flush : adding header: CQ-Path:/content/we-retail/us/en/products/men/coats/portland-hooded-jacket
2019-02-01 20:03:38 - DEBUG - flush : adding header: CQ-Action-Scope:ResourceOnly
2019-02-01 20:03:38 - DEBUG - flush : deserialize content for delivery
2019-02-01 20:03:38 - DEBUG - flush : No message body: Content ReplicationContent.VOID is empty
2019-02-01 20:03:38 - INFO - flush : Sending GET request to http://localhost:80/dispatcher/invalidate.cache
2019-02-01 20:03:38 - INFO - flush : sent. Response: 200 OK
2019-02-01 20:03:38 - INFO - flush : ------------------------------------------------
2019-02-01 20:03:38 - INFO - flush : Sending message to localhost:80
2019-02-01 20:03:38 - INFO - flush : >> GET /dispatcher/invalidate.cache HTTP/1.0
2019-02-01 20:03:38 - INFO - flush : >> CQ-Action: Activate
2019-02-01 20:03:38 - INFO - flush : >> CQ-Handle: /content/we-retail/us/en/products/men/coats/portland-hooded-jacket
2019-02-01 20:03:38 - INFO - flush : >> CQ-Path: /content/we-retail/us/en/products/men/coats/portland-hooded-jacket
2019-02-01 20:03:38 - INFO - flush : >> CQ-Action-Scope: ResourceOnly
2019-02-01 20:03:38 - INFO - flush : >> Referer: about:blank
2019-02-01 20:03:38 - INFO - flush : >> Content-Length: 0
2019-02-01 20:03:38 - INFO - flush : >> Content-Type: application/octet-stream
2019-02-01 20:03:38 - INFO - flush : --
2019-02-01 20:03:38 - INFO - flush : << HTTP/1.1 200 OK
2019-02-01 20:03:38 - INFO - flush : << Date: Sat, 02 Feb 2019 01:03:38 GMT
2019-02-01 20:03:38 - INFO - flush : << Server: Apache
2019-02-01 20:03:38 - INFO - flush : << Content-Length: 13
2019-02-01 20:03:38 - INFO - flush : << Content-Type: text/html; charset=utf-8
2019-02-01 20:03:38 - INFO - flush : <<
2019-02-01 20:03:38 - INFO - flush : <<
2019-02-01 20:03:38 - INFO - flush : Message sent.
2019-02-01 20:03:38 - INFO - flush : ------------------------------------------------
2019-02-01 20:03:38 - INFO - flush : Replication (ACTIVATE) of /content/we-retail/us/en/products/men/coats/portland-hooded-jacket successful.
Dispatcher logs without ResourceOnly header
[D] [pid 26952 (tid 1152)] Found farm website for localhost
[D] [pid 26952 (tid 1152)] checking [/dispatcher/invalidate.cache]
[I] [pid 26952 (tid 1152)] Activation detected: action=Activate [/content/we-retail/us/en/products/men/coats/portland-hooded-jacket]
[I] [pid 26952 (tid 1152)] Touched c:\installed_setups\Apache2.2\htdocs\.stat
[I] [pid 26952 (tid 1152)] Touched c:\installed_setups\Apache2.2\htdocs\content\.stat
[I] [pid 26952 (tid 1152)] Touched c:\installed_setups\Apache2.2\htdocs\content\we-retail\.stat
[I] [pid 26952 (tid 1152)] Touched c:\installed_setups\Apache2.2\htdocs\content\we-retail\us\.stat
[D] [pid 26952 (tid 1152)] response.status = 200
[D] [pid 26952 (tid 1152)] response.headers[Server] = "Communique/2.6.3 (build 5221)"
[D] [pid 26952 (tid 1152)] response.headers[Content-Type] = "text/html"
[D] [pid 26952 (tid 1152)] cache flushed
[I] [pid 26952 (tid 1152)] "GET /dispatcher/invalidate.cache" 200 13 26ms [website/-]
and
2019-02-01 20:04:28 - INFO - flush : Agent started.
2019-02-01 20:04:36 - INFO - flush : Creating content for path /content/we-retail/us/en/products/men/coats/portland-hooded-jacket
2019-02-01 20:04:36 - INFO - flush : Create new HttpClient for Dispatcher Flush
2019-02-01 20:04:36 - INFO - flush : * HTTP Version: 1.1
2019-02-01 20:04:36 - DEBUG - flush : adding header: CQ-Action:Activate
2019-02-01 20:04:36 - DEBUG - flush : adding header: CQ-Handle:/content/we-retail/us/en/products/men/coats/portland-hooded-jacket
2019-02-01 20:04:36 - DEBUG - flush : adding header: CQ-Path:/content/we-retail/us/en/products/men/coats/portland-hooded-jacket
2019-02-01 20:04:36 - DEBUG - flush : deserialize content for delivery
2019-02-01 20:04:36 - DEBUG - flush : No message body: Content ReplicationContent.VOID is empty
2019-02-01 20:04:36 - INFO - flush : Sending GET request to http://localhost:80/dispatcher/invalidate.cache
2019-02-01 20:04:37 - INFO - flush : sent. Response: 200 OK
2019-02-01 20:04:37 - INFO - flush : ------------------------------------------------
2019-02-01 20:04:37 - INFO - flush : Sending message to localhost:80
2019-02-01 20:04:37 - INFO - flush : >> GET /dispatcher/invalidate.cache HTTP/1.0
2019-02-01 20:04:37 - INFO - flush : >> CQ-Action: Activate
2019-02-01 20:04:37 - INFO - flush : >> CQ-Handle: /content/we-retail/us/en/products/men/coats/portland-hooded-jacket
2019-02-01 20:04:37 - INFO - flush : >> CQ-Path: /content/we-retail/us/en/products/men/coats/portland-hooded-jacket
2019-02-01 20:04:37 - INFO - flush : >> Referer: about:blank
2019-02-01 20:04:37 - INFO - flush : >> Content-Length: 0
2019-02-01 20:04:37 - INFO - flush : >> Content-Type: application/octet-stream
2019-02-01 20:04:37 - INFO - flush : --
2019-02-01 20:04:37 - INFO - flush : << HTTP/1.1 200 OK
2019-02-01 20:04:37 - INFO - flush : << Date: Sat, 02 Feb 2019 01:04:37 GMT
2019-02-01 20:04:37 - INFO - flush : << Server: Apache
2019-02-01 20:04:37 - INFO - flush : << Content-Length: 13
2019-02-01 20:04:37 - INFO - flush : << Content-Type: text/html; charset=utf-8
2019-02-01 20:04:37 - INFO - flush : <<
2019-02-01 20:04:37 - INFO - flush : <<
2019-02-01 20:04:37 - INFO - flush : Message sent.
2019-02-01 20:04:37 - INFO - flush : ------------------------------------------------
2019-02-01 20:04:37 - INFO - flush : Replication (ACTIVATE) of /content/we-retail/us/en/products/men/coats/portland-hooded-jacket successful.